Grief can be raw, painful, and messy. It is important during times of grief to take care of yourself. Self-care is a crucial part of the healing process and can help ease the suffering of the mind, body, and spirit. As every individual’s grief is unique, so is their path to healing from a loss. Before, during and after funeral services, what works for someone else, may not work for you and that’s okay. Find what self-care tips work for you.
Be kind to yourself
Grief can be cruel. Give yourself the love and respect you deserve. Talk kindly to yourself and allow yourself to grieve in the time and ways that you need. Give yourself words of encouragement. Don’t let your own mind hurt you further. Reflect on meaningful ways to show yourself kindness.
Allow yourself to really feel
Feel what you need to feel. There is no right or wrong feeling during grief. You may feel numb, angry, empty, depressed, confused, etc. You may also feel relief, comfort, joy, etc. Whatever you’re feeling is okay.
Schedule something that brings you joy, everyday
Whether it’s baking, music, art, praying, or reading; find something that brings you happiness and make it a priority every single day.
Talk it out
It is important to talk to others, but it doesn’t have to be to everyone. It doesn’t always have to be about your grief, but if you hide your grief your body may start to express it for you.
Express your emotions
Find a meaningful, healthy outlet for you to let out your emotions. This could be through art, journaling, music, exercise, etc. Find something that you feel gives you the opportunity to release your emotions and stick with it.
Get your sleep
Your body needs an ample amount of rest to heal. Give yourself the sleep you need to allow your body and mind to recover.
Awaken your senses
Expose yourself to a variety of sensory activities that bring you comfort. For example, taste or smell different foods, feel soft fabrics, smell flowers, sit by the water, or watch the sunset. Tune into your senses to find what brings you the most comfort.
Nourish your body with healthy foods
Your mind is experiencing trauma. Replenish your body and mind with nutritious foods and plenty of water so that you can heal properly.
Make a routine
After a loss, your life is going to change. It may be helpful for you to try a new routine to help yourself deal with all the changes. Eventually, you will find your new normal.
Intentional focus on your breathing can be beneficial during a time when you feel you are losing control. Breathing mindfully and other forms of meditation can give you a sense of control of your body and mind.
Move your body
Exercise is calming for both mind and body. Go for a walk, do yoga, bike, run, or even clean the house. Whatever form of movement you enjoy, do that.
Hygiene still matters
Don’t forget to care for your body. Take a shower or a hot bath. Brush your teeth. Doing these simple things for yourself can help you feel refreshed and can also be a win for the day. Even if you don’t do anything else that day, you can feel like you accomplished something.
See your doctor
When you’re grieving after a loss, your immune system is also suffering. Make sure you are not ignoring your health. Taking a pause to take care of your health doesn’t mean you don’t miss them.
Not only can being outside bring you joy, breathing fresh air provides the body with more oxygen. More oxygen means more energy and greater clarity of mind.
Let light in
Don’t let yourself get too comfortable inside in a dark room. Open the curtains. Go outside and embrace the sunlight.